All I want for Christmas is my sparkle back.

To be honest, my sparkle has been a bit dimmed for the last while. Like, the last couple of years at least, if not longer. I won’t harp on it, it was a bad period. My self-confidence reached an all-time low again, I felt uninspired, unmotivated, depressed, dull. No strut to my step, no shine to my tired smile, no sharpness to my thoughts, no interest to my words. But that’s enough of that. I want my sparkle back. Enough complaining, enough bitter thoughts about the lost time. It happened, now it’s done, survival mode deactivated, I no longer have to get through each day laboriously, like through a desert march. I am allowed to live. I am allowed to hope. I am allowed to be happy and enjoy myself.

The Christmas is coming soon and I am a hopeless enthusiast of all things Christmas, the kitsch, the endless carols and tacky decorations, it is the most sparkly of all times. I know, I get it why so many people don’t care for this holiday, but frankly, I don’t really give a damn. I can’t wait to delightedly drink my eggnog, and hot buttered rum, and eat my gingerbread, wear the most outrageous Christmas jumpers I can find and listen to Christmas songs on a loop while looking at the twinkling fairy lights, and watch all Doctor Who Christmas specials in a row, and put my Christmas Dalek and Owls and Dinosaurs on the tree, and hug my loved ones, and feel gooey, and warm and sparkly inside. There’s nothing religious for me about it, I am not religious, the best way to describe it comes obviously from a Doctor Who Christmas special: “On every world, wherever people are, in the deepest part of the winter, at the exact midpoint, everybody stops, and turns, and hugs, as if to say “Well done. Well done, everyone! We’re halfway out of the dark.”

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On the subject of magic

Sometimes it doesn’t come naturally all the time. Sometimes I playact, I pretend, I go through motions, hoping for my clothes to turn into a magician’s cape full of rabbits, flowers and Queens of Hearts. Sometimes the stick doesn’t want to turn into a sword, a lightsaber or a wand. Pots of stew obstinately refuse to transform into witch’s potions and brews. Sometimes the stars remain beyond reach and distant planets full of alien life go undiscovered. Sometimes animals never want to talk and sentient software doesn’t learn to love. The world doesn’t spontaneously spring to bloom nor burns with colour in the fall. Sometimes angelic hush doesn’t cover the parks in blindingly white snow and summer’s gentle dusk doesn’t rock me to sleep in the hypnotic scent of roses, jasmine and night-scented stock. Sometimes the magic eludes me and the days run into one another, gray, and dark, full of numbers that don’t add up, sharp pointy elbows and burnt milk on the stove.

But then again, sometimes it takes nothing at all, a play of light on a fallen leaf, a music note juicily clear, a snippet of conversation overheard on the bus and there it is, the awakened dream. My eyes fill up with swirling galaxies, I dance and fly above the mountaintops, on rainbow wings, a jet-pack, or a travelling spider web. I play with dragons in the air, threading my way through the sky-scraping columns of some mysterious civilization long gone, like a ribbon. I traipse through the ancient ruins of heroic castles and shake hands with the noble ghosts while we await the mighty battles against the evil hordes. I swap gossip with the halflings over goblets of mead at the roadside inns and grow the first ever tomatoes on Mars. I bring dinosaurs back to life, explore the Antarctic and build a hut on an enchanted glade in the middle of the forest older than the oldest tales. I melt in with a smooth silver beech tree and live a life of majesty and peace, singing a quiet song along with the Universe. Sometimes, the wonder is right there, underneath the eyelashes, spinning with the planet under my feet, beating its rhythm right into my ears, breathing quietly, waiting for me.

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Moan, whinge, whine, complain, also some music musings.

Damn and blast the crime book series I’m reading (a Polish one, so I won’t bother with the titles as it’s not likely you’re ever going to find it)! Another novel ends on a massive cliff-hanger and so obediently I’m jumping straight into the next installment to find out the hows and whys of the whole thing. Small blessing that at least this particular series is already written and even if it wasn’t, the author is pretty prolific so I wouldn’t have to wait too long anyway. I’m a completionist (which is another word for “sucker”), I’m getting better though, it used to be that if I started a series I simply had to finish reading it, even if I hated everything about it (yes Robert Jordan and Kate Elliott, I’m talking to you). These days I usually manage to disentangle myself by about book two if I’m not enjoying it. Life’s to short for reading books you don’t like.

Anyway, I have nothing better to do, I’m propped in my bed, surrounded by tissues and lozenges, drinking unholy amounts of hot liquids, smelling strongly of Vics VapoRub, downing my doses of cough syrup and other concoctions trying not to get extremely irritated by what I can’t help but perceive as an unlawful imprisonment. I have stuff to do damn it, jobs to find, hot buttered rum to drink in a new swanky pub, walks to walk and friends to meet! I went out for a short walk a couple of days ago though and that resulted only in my getting decidedly worse, so I guess I better do my time and let this bs of a cold/flu/bug/whatever the hell it is go away organically. And in meantime, as my brain is refusing cooperation in any more serious undertaking, I shall read violent murderous fiction. The violence and murder are somehow soothing. I’m not sure what that says about me…

I’m not really certain about writing this post either. Today’s prompt did very little to spark my imagination, so instead I’m treating is as a permission to unleash an unfair one-way stream of discontentment at the world in general, and my present affliction in particular. Can you tell that I really don’t like being sick? I know, I know, nobody really likes being sick. And it’s not like I’m suffering from anything serious, it’ll go away in a couple of days. But I guess that’s kind of the point, that it isn’t anything serious, it’s just a bloody cold (or something along these lines), so how dare it make me feel so miserable and prevent me from operating at full capacity?! Normally I’d probably try to just power through and go about my day but I have been quite a bit run down lately, so it is hitting me a bit harder than it usually would. So bed it is, and hot drinks, and Vicks, and lozenges and crime stories and moaning to the strangers on the internet. :/

Although I had my little chuckle for the day earlier this morning. I woke up, clogged up, heavy-headed, feeling like death on a stick and to try and put myself in some sort of a decent mood I made myself a lemsip, put on headphones with the cheer-me-up playlist I came up with last night and started listening. After a while I realized that I was sort of vaguely rocking in rhythm with the song in the bed, dressed in my warm flannel red pjs, hot lemsip in one hand, a tissue in another, wheezing quietly to myself after Iggy Pop “I’m a real wild child” A wild child indeed… 😀

Speaking of cheer-me-up lists, mine are usually weird. They have the normal stuff – cheery upbeat songs, power-strutting melodies, cheesy but entertaining pop/rock/dance numbers but there are always some things there that make people unaccustomed to my brain’s twist and turns look at me a bit funny. I don’t care, I will go to my grave claiming that for example “Killing in the Name” by Rage Against the Machine is one of the happiest songs on this planet! There is simply no happier thing to do than shouting very loudly “Fuck you, I won’t do what you tell me!” over and over again, whether you’re a teenager or a 35 year old woman. And as to why for instance “Creep” and “Looser” and “Panic” make it to my happy lists? Because fuck you, I won’t do what you tell me, that’s why 😉

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Photo of me from a long time ago but perfectly capturing my mood today 😉

My threads are calling me

Meh. I have a cold, that seems to be spreading to my chest now, I’m on my period (ooooh, oh no she didn’t mention the dreaded p-word!), I’m a sore, clogged up, wheezy, coughing mess and generally not in the best of moods. I was planning on skipping writing today as well, and instead reading another juicy sick and twisted Polish crime novel until sweet dreams of murder and maiming came upon me, but today’s prompt convinced me to type up a quick something.

I have a quiet love for needle crafts. It’s a temperamental and seasonal affliction, it manifests itself usually only in the midst of winter, more so if I also happen to be depressed.  When my mind gets lost among the dark and slippery tunnels, when my concentration abandons me and reading and writing are no longer viable options for spending free time, I look for something to do with my hands. I knit, I crochet, I embroider.

There’s something supremely soothing and comforting about handling soft wool, or colourful threads. There is peace to be found in the process itself, repetitive but still attention requiring motions, pleasure in learning more and more demanding techniques, satisfaction of seeing how with patience something tangible, and with luck, beautiful starts taking shape.

I was never taught any of this, nobody in my family does needle crafts. I learnt it all from the internet, from books, forums and YouTube videos, the resources are out there if you want to learn. I do sometimes question what is it that gives me more pleasure – learning a new skill or technique, or actually completing a project; I seem to be doing a lot of the former and not so much of the latter. But frankly, as I see knitting/crocheting/embroidering as mainly therapeutic activities it doesn’t really matter. Knitting or crocheting is easier in application, one can never have too many colourful scarves, hats, stuffed animals etc. It’s a bit trickier to find practical use for fancy embroidery, which is my most recent, and I think strongest fascination. I mean, yes, I could embroider table linen (although I would first have to spend a small fortune on the really fine linen, which is the only material I can use for some of the techniques I love, not mentioning decent embroidery frames – since a hoop wouldn’t be much use for a project of that size), or something along these lines, but lets face it – I would never dare to use it even if I did complete it, so there doesn’t seem to be much point in that. So instead I just embroider pretty little things, not really thinking about utilizing them for anything. I’m ok with that. It’s the activity that counts, it’s the pleasure in knowing I can do that with my own two hands, and while I’m not an expert, I learnt it all myself.

I may not be up to it just this instance, but as the November is passing, and winter is coming I keep looking at my box of threads and visions of colorful flowers, strange creatures and lace are starting to swim in front of my eyes…

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I reserve the right to withhold mercy

I reserve the right to withhold mercy

I do not relinquish anger

you do not have my forgiveness

 

you took away

the comfort of my skin

the safety of familiar streets

the peace in the night

the ease of touch

the friendliness of the world

the ready smile

the butterflies of thought

 

your shadows walk with me

the jagged edges of sudden movements

the sharp angles of unexpected sounds

the frost in the blood

when someone walks behind unseen

the neck so tense it’s about to break

the mind collapsing like a broken umbrella

 

I claw my way back

into the sunshine

each day

the anger propels me

you robbed me of so much

you’ll get nothing more

you, all of you, don’t get to win

 

as to the rest of you

don’t you dare

it’s not your place to absolve have mercy or forgive

in my name

you don’t get the right to speak

for the damaged beaten abused hurt

for yourself do what you have to do

whatever brings you peace

 

but I

withhold mercy

I don’t relinquish anger

and I do not forgive

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Blogger Recognition Award

bloggerrecognition21Hey, so apparently this is a thing that happens in the blogging world, who knew? First things first – a big thank you to Teresa Brumit, who has nominated me for this award. I strongly advise you to check out her blog Armed With a Keyboard , she writes about her life with admirable honesty and a lot of her posts made me pause and think. And really, what better compliment can you give to someone who writes? So go off and read her blog, and pause, and think!

Rules for this Award:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and link to their blog.
  • Write a post to show your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give 2 pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Select 5 other bloggers you want to give this award to, and comment on each blog to let them know with a link to your award post.

How this blog has started

I used to write. A lot. I wrote poetry, stories, a journal, letters, notes, and everything else. It’s how I navigated the world, it’s how I made sense of my own head. Then life happened, with its illnesses, lengthy depression episodes, various dark twist and turns and I lost the comfort of writing for some years. I think you need a certain level of confidence to write, confidence in your ability to do it, and maybe a belief that what you have to say matters in some way, even if just to yourself. I had none of that.

I’ve been battling with my own head for a long time now and there’s some progress. One of the things I’ve been determined for a while to get back into my life is writing. This, very recent, blog (a baby-blog if you will) is one of my attempts to reclaim what’s mine, my thoughts, my words, my writing. It’s nothing much, a jumble of stuff – some poems here and there, some memories, some impressions and reflections – it won’t set the world on fire, but it’s a little corner of myself that I got back. And it’s a wonderful thing to be able to share it with a few kind readers.

2 pieces of advice for new bloggers

Honestly, I’ve only been doing this for a very short while so these are more my intuitions about this whole blogging thing than actual advice.

    1. Just write. Don’t stress about it too much, don’t overthink it, your blog is your writing house, we’re the guests checking out the furniture and the books on your shelves. Write about what interest you, what moves you, what makes you think. Write about your experiences and the world as you see it. It is a great joy to come across writing that strongly resonates with us, someone talking about familiar matters, someone who thinks a bit like us. It is an ever greater one to read someone who perceives the world in a completely different manner, talking about the whole universe of things we’ve never encountered, opening our minds to countless new possibilities.
    2. If you’re struggling with coming up with the subjects for your posts, use prompts, there are many options available. My favourite is the Daily Prompt. Every day they post a one word prompt, I like it because it’s so simple. A single word to anchor your thoughts and start spinning your writing from it. You can take it any way you want, but you have the starting point and so the blank screen doesn’t seem all that intimidating anymore.

My 5 nominations

Travelling Psychologist

Lives in the Lyrics

inconstant light

Chronicles of an Anglo Swiss

Momentum of Jo

 

Not really the nesting type.

What is wrong with me? I see the word “nest” and my brain immediately goes to images of a nest of tarantulas (which I have seen, terrifying, even if you’re not particularly scared of spiders) or a nest of vipers (which I have once very narrowly missed walking into). It’s mainly scary things that come to my mind. None of the pretty birds and cute little chicks for me, it’s all venomous monsters and danger.

Maybe it’s because I’m not a nesting sort of a person. Oh you know what I’m talking about, some people walk into a place and start making it their own within the first few minutes – a nice photo here, a cozy pillow there, some knick-knacks, books, pretty things and all of a sudden an anonymous room is transformed. Well, that’s not me. I can make a big mess the instance I enter a new abode (but I am VERY good at it, it’s quite impressive, I can make a mess out of nothing, give me a pristine hotel room and 5 minutes and you’ll see for yourself), but that’s about that.

It’s not that I don’t like being in a comfortable space, it’s not that I wouldn’t necessarily like to make a room/apartment/house feel my own, I would rather like that. I decorate and furnish my “dream house” in my head quite a bit. It’s just that partially I am afraid to commit to the project (what’s the point of making a space your own, putting time, effort and money to do that, if you’re just going to move shortly?), but mostly I’m just lazy. Because I know that I wouldn’t really need to put a lot of effort, or time, or money, there are a lot of small improvements I could make with barely any cost at all. And a few years of living somewhere is not exactly “short-term”. But I just don’t. Admittedly, moving to different countries a few times has scarred me but mostly I just couldn’t be bothered.

I mean, eventually, over time, if I stay somewhere for a while, the place does start to feel a little bit more like home – especially if I have my books there. Incidentally, my concept of decorating a room consist mainly of putting up bookshelves filled with books. Many, many bookshelves, with many, many books. Organically, my papers, pens and notebooks get strewn around, my craft supplies are at an arms reach, I have all my cooking stuff in order, there’s a great big box of spices and an array of teas, sauces, vinegars and condiments in the kitchen, there are some family photos here and there and my teddy bears and assorted creatures reign supreme. I have my cozy blanket (I have got to have a cozy blanket wherever I live, it’s absolutely essential and it’s one of the first things I always buy in a new place), I have my comfy pjs and my big mugs for drinking tea. I have a teapot or 3, and a bunch of miscellaneous stuff in a big plastic box (you know: cables, chargers to who-knows-what, screws, bits and bobs that just accumulate without you even noticing, all of it could be probably thrown out, but you always think it might come in handy at some point, so you keep it).

I’m not a nesting type. But honestly, I may be reaching the point in my life where I kind of would like to be.

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What did I tell you – mess! And books!